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Baptism A Memorable Religious Family Occasion
A sacred and important ceremony in the life of any Christian, baptism has taken on a meaning of its own in the English language. The original word, from its Greek root, meant washing or cleansing or even possible submersion into water. The rite in Christianity now implies becoming a full Christian. Usually, young babies are baptized quite early in life in order to complete their membership of the Christian faith.A beautiful white robe looks lovely and pure on any little baby, girl or boy; he or she will look like a little angel. You may even have a baptism party with a twist – ask your younger guests to dress like angels or shepherds. They are sure to enjoy it, as are their parents. Decorate your home with candles and white flowers, to give it a clean and celestial ambience.Make sure you and your family are dressed in their best clothes, as this will no doubt be a day when lots of pictures will be taken. An idea might be to try and take pictures earlier in the day rather than later, as it’s great to see happy and smiling faces rather than grizzly children who haven’t had their nap yet!Sharing a meal afterwards with your family and friends is a great way to round off the occasion. One option is to have a ‘pot luck’ dinner, with each family bringing a dish to share. If you opt to do this, it might be an idea to ask half the families to bring savoury food and the other half to bring dessert. Another good idea is to serve food that you can prepare the day before; that way you g

that she had had the feeling that she was pulling some strings with dark filthy things tangled in it from my neck, exactly what I had felt! Then at every session I went to I always got this sharp pain in my neck at some time. Then I started to go to a therapist. She was an old woman educated as a psychiatric nurse, but took people into therapy, and someone had said to me that she really made miracles. So I went to her and I told her my entire "victim" story in details, hoping that she would be the one that would show my once and for all how sorry she felt for me, and that would make me happy at last. In the end of the session she leaned back and then she told me the truth; That I was making myself sick, that I was a much stronger personality then to waste my life in self-pity, and in fact I had the full responsibility over all my emotions. I can’t remember what exactly she said but the bottom line was that I should stop feeling sorry for myself, stop being constantly a victim and it was all up to me to start to feel better. WOW it was a big shocker! At first I was so angry that she didn’t feel sorry for me, and I thought she was a very bad person to hurt my feelings that way, and I was also certain that I would never ever go to her again.

Creating Web Content Using Audio Recordings of Expert Interviews
Creating Web Content Using Audio Recordings of Expert Interviews The easiest way to create content for your websites is also one of the best ways to create value for your clients. It's a wonderful technique that when used well can make a big difference to how professionally your work is perceived in the marketplace. One of the Biggest Mistakes You Can Make Doing Business Online is Trying to Be the Expert on Everything Many online business owners think that if they don't create their own content, they can't offer it or sell it. This is absolutely untrue. Moreover, if you don't get over this mental block, you will end by exhausting yourself and likely not completing many of your projects. Instead of getting stuck in this way, try using audio recording to create content quickly and relieve yourself of the pressure of having to do everything yourself. Find Experts on Your Topic and Interview Them "on the record." Send an email to 5 people you'd like to interview, inviting them to chat with you for 30-45 minutes by telephone. Do this as often as you like, but at minimum twice a year. Be sure to provide a few sentences about what you'd like to ask them and tell them what you're doing the interviews for. Let them know you'll be recording your interview so you can share their expertise with your online visitors. Most experts will find your invitation appealing because they have to do very little preparation, they don't have to travel,

Winner:
1. What I have
2. Makes thing happen
3. How can I become
4. Looks at the positive
5. Finds ways
6. Acknowledges responsibility
7. Takes guidance
8. Always sees wins ahead
9. Listens more
10. Creates goals for him/herself
11. Learns from mistakes
12. Forgives
13. Long distance runner, patient
14. Favors

Victim:
1. What I haven't got
2. Waits for things to happen
3. Why can't I?
4. Focuses on the faults
5. Finds excuses
6. Blames others
7. Knows it all
8. Always sees losses ahead
9. Talks more
10. Creates obstacles for him/herself
11. Looses from mistakes
12. Holds a grudge
13. Short distance runner, burns out
14. Blames

I would never have believed that the key to live a life in harmony, peace and happiness was such a simple thing: Not allowing myself to indulge in self-pity. I just had to acknowledge that I was responsible of my own emotions and feelings, to look at the positive sides of everything, to have the winner attitude always in mind in all situations, to acknowledge that it is in fact up to you how you handle things in life. If you have the winner mentality then it doesn’t really matters what life throws at you, you make problems into tasks that you work on and solve. It is just so much easier to look at things in a positive way, even things that frighten you, that seem so unsolvable. It is a fact that if you don’t see the monster in a horror film then the film gets so much scarier. As soon as you get to see the monster close up it stops being so scary. The same with problems, if you simply look at them straight in the eyes, examine them closely, get familiar to them, then they stop being so scary.

Empathy has never cured any personal or mental problems in anyone ever. My opinion is that I think empathy triggers what I would like to call: behavior mirrors (there is probably some fancy word for it, but this will do). That is if you get empathy from others you start to act the victim role. When you get into that role you will begin to feel worse because you want to reflect this idea that person has of you as being A victim. So with every person that feels sorry for you, your victim role is strengthened and with it you throw away any responsibility for your own emotions and behavior. Everything you try to achieve in this victim "mode" is doomed to failure because you have to proof for yourself constantly that you are such a victim that everything is destined to fail and then you have one more thing to feel sorry for yourself about and that strengthens even more the victim mentality in your life.

The thing that is also amazing about this is that you are totally oblivious about what is really going on. The self deception is so powerful that in the end everything evolves around being the ideal victim. You don’t even see that you are creating the problems yourself. When you are a victim you never take responsibility for your own feelings, behavior and mental state, you simply blame the "others" for it if things aren’t great, the "others" are bad because they don’t feel sorry enough for you and treat you badly. You feel the whole world is against you, when in fact the problem starts and ends with this self deception. The lie that you have gotten so clever to tell yourself. You make yourself think that you are a helpless victim to your own bad emotions, that the depression you feel is simply something that comes out of thin air and that you can’t do anything about it.

Again I was so wrong? In the end of this "victim era" as I call it, I had become a part of the mental health system. I was diagnosed having a borderline personality disorder, and oh how I treasured that! It was the final proof that made me into an ideal victim. A mental patient. It doesn’t get better then that, right!? To have a written proof that I was suffering inside, poor me. Now I could throw away all responsibility of my own feelings because "I couldn’t help it". Instantly after the diagnosis there came a time when I went on "the quest for the holy pill" as I like to call it. Trying all kinds of medicines that were supposed to "cure" me. Again I got disappointed, because I was waiting for a pill that I could pop and BOOM feel good instantly, no strings attached. Of course there are no such pills like that, but as expected, I took the failure of getting cured as another proof that I was a victim. I went on many kinds of medicines anyway and became a zombie for a while. For about 3-4 years when I was on big doses of some knock out tranquilizers I had no opinion at all. I didn’t laugh, I didn’t cry, I didn’t talk, I didn’t feel anything. I didn’t feel bad, but I didn’t feel good either, frankly I didn’t feel at all! The only thing I could do was to sit in front of the television (I guess because it is more acceptable to stare at the TV then to stare at an empty wall) and eat and eat and eat with my brain wrapped up in pink clouds made by pills.

Then something happened. When I look back at the things that changed my whole life, I can see that it was in fact many things that affected each other in a way that got me on the right track. Some are even not of this world. It all begun when my mother laid her hands on me. What I mean by it is that she put her hands on me to heal me spiritually. It is not quite healing in a christian way, just healing using the spirits that help her. In one such session some major thing happened, she had her hands on my head and suddenly I felt a very sharp pain in my neck that felt exactly like a string pulled through my neck. When we talked afterwards, my mother and me, she told me that she had had the feeling that she was pulling some strings with dark filthy things tangled in it from my neck, exactly what I had felt! Then at every session I went to I always got this sharp pain in my neck at some time. Then I started to go to a therapist. She was an old woman educated as a psychiatric nurse, but took people into therapy, and someone had said to me that she really made miracles. So I went to her and I told her my entire "victim" story in details, hoping that she would be the one that would show my once and for all how sorry she felt for me, and that would make me happy at last. In the end of the session she leaned back and then she told me the truth; That I was making myself sick, that I was a much stronger personality then to waste my life in self-pity, and in fact I had the full responsibility over all my emotions. I can’t remember what exactly she said but the bottom line was that I should stop feeling sorry for myself, stop being constantly a victim and it was all up to me to start to feel better. WOW it was a big shocker! At first I was so angry that she didn’t feel sorry for me, and I thought she was a very bad person to hurt my feelings that way, and I was also certain that I would never ever go to her again.

Health Savings Accounts - Complete Control Over Health Care Spending
Health Savings Accounts are designed to give policy holders complete control over their health care spending. In short cash contributions are made to their Health Savings Accounts and are coupled with High Deductible Insurance Plans. Those who are interested in gaining more control over their health care spending and those interested in trading low deductible health insurance plans for higher deductible plans which saves money on monthly premiums as well as providing the benefit of lower taxes.Health Savings Accounts are two fold. A lower cost high deductible insurance policy allows you to save on premiums. The money you save can in turn be deposited into your Health Savings Account. You can use the money in your Health Savings Account to cover the cost of deductibles and other qualified medical expenses. A unique component in Health Savings Accounts is that at the end of the year any unused money will roll over into the next year and will continue to do so year after year.Health Savings Accounts give individuals the opportunity to have complete control over their health care spending. With high demand being placed on consumer friendly healthcare and a need for health care reform, Health Savings Accounts fit the bill. With the focus placed on prevention the consumer has the option of seeking out medical treatments that are typically not covered under more tradition health insurance policies. Should you choose a holistic or experimental treatment route your Health Savings Account

the winner attitude always in mind in all situations, to acknowledge that it is in fact up to you how you handle things in life. If you have the winner mentality then it doesn’t really matters what life throws at you, you make problems into tasks that you work on and solve. It is just so much easier to look at things in a positive way, even things that frighten you, that seem so unsolvable. It is a fact that if you don’t see the monster in a horror film then the film gets so much scarier. As soon as you get to see the monster close up it stops being so scary. The same with problems, if you simply look at them straight in the eyes, examine them closely, get familiar to them, then they stop being so scary.

No Lies – Great Salespeople Always Tell The Truth
There is an old mantra in sales – Under-promise and over-deliver. While many salespeople follow this axiom and, on the surface, it has good intentions, it really tells you to do one thing – Lie to your clients. If you are in sales, try this interesting concept – Tell the truth!The theory behind the "under-promise and over-deliver" concept is that if you over-promise, your clients will be upset with you when the final results are not what they expected; they may bad-mouth you and this will, most certainly, cost you any potential future referrals from them. If you under-promise, the final results will always be better than expected and your clients will be quite pleased with you. They'll tell their friends and you will get more referrals and sales leads in the future.Now, here is the problem. If you under-promise, you may lose out on the current sale. Your customers or prospects may end up buying from a salesperson that over-promises. What good is under-promising to make prospects happy in the future if they never actually become a customer in the first place? And, you should not over-promise because that will upset your customers; angry customers are not good for business. So what should you do? Don't under-promise. Don't over-promise. TELL THE TRUTH!What happens when you tell the truth? People will like you. People buy from people they like. That's not a sales tip. It's not a sales technique. It’s human nature. People will always be weary of pushy salespeople or salespeople

bout and that strengthens even more the victim mentality in your life.

Stock Pick - Strategy on stock investing
Stock Pick is the key of stock investing. With many stocks out there, we need to know which stock should we buy, and which stock we should sell. If you choose well, then you’ve reach glory, if you choose the wrong stock then might just say goodbye to your money. So how do you choose? If you want to go somewhere like your home, there’s maybe many roads you can choose. Different roads have also different characteristic. You’ll most probably choose the road which you like the characteristic. If you like the mountain scenery, you might want to go though the mountains. The same like that example, stock picking is very crucial. It’s actually the key for success, and the guide for glory. Just follow and stick with your stock pick guide, and you’ll reach your goal. But remember that there’s no guarantee that your stock pick strategy will be 100% accurate, because there’s a lot of factor which influence a company performance, and many of it is tangible like brand, employee competence, and human emotional.Many people use screener as a strategy to pick stock. There are many popular screener, like Graham screener for the value investing method. You can modify the screener to fit your character. If you are risk averse or risk taker, you can change the screener to increase the effectiveness. Other poeple uses software like Vector2000 Stock Systems which gives advanced technical analysis and market forecasting for short term stock market trends, c/w trade recommendations, timing indicators, enhanced qu

g all kinds of medicines that were supposed to "cure" me. Again I got disappointed, because I was waiting for a pill that I could pop and BOOM feel good instantly, no strings attached. Of course there are no such pills like that, but as expected, I took the failure of getting cured as another proof that I was a victim. I went on many kinds of medicines anyway and became a zombie for a while. For about 3-4 years when I was on big doses of some knock out tranquilizers I had no opinion at all. I didn’t laugh, I didn’t cry, I didn’t talk, I didn’t feel anything. I didn’t feel bad, but I didn’t feel good either, frankly I didn’t feel at all! The only thing I could do was to sit in front of the television (I guess because it is more acceptable to stare at the TV then to stare at an empty wall) and eat and eat and eat with my brain wrapped up in pink clouds made by pills.

Educators Guide to Planning a Wireless Network - Part 1
WIRELESS NETWORKING FOR THE EDUCATOR - PART 1"PRIOR PLANNING PREVENTS PISS POOR PERFORMANCE"There are many things to think about when planning a wireless network for a school environment. Your wireless network must be secure, must be able to handle teachers and staff work loads, and finally provide wireless access for mobile laptop labs for students. Combining all the above could be seem very difficult considering most schools will have about 100 staff members and over 500 students.The first stage of planning your network is to discuss with staff what a wireless network will and won’t do. Find out exactly the areas where the staff will and won’t need wireless access. Will the staff or students need access in the gym area? Will the students need wireless access outdoors? How many wireless laptops will be accessing the network? What applications do the staff intend to use while using the wireless network? What applications will the students be using on the wireless network? Keep asking questions until you feel everyone understands the capabilities of a wireless network. If you fail to ask many questions it could cost your district a lot of time and money on something that doesn’t fill the schools needs.Wireless networks in schools will usually have to support the following missions. A common need is to provide access for mobile laptops labs for students. Students use the labs to surf the internet, access network servers and perform research. Your network

The self deception was so great that at first I couldn’t understand why she said those things to me, and I thought it was such a mean thing to do because "I couldn’t help myself" feeling this way, and that she "didn’t know me". But I went back to her because frankly I was so utterly tired of myself and my mess of a life. I decided to be totally open to everything she said, because she was my last hope of getting out of this emotional pit. In all her sessions I felt the string being pulled from my neck, and in the end I felt the string being pulled nearly everyday for weeks, and that was not in sessions or with my mother, just in my normal day, having all the pain and darkness pulled out of me. The pain in my neck was so real, it was exactly like a string with some hard, sharp, hurtful things attached to it being pulled from my neck. I had felt when I met the therapist for the first time that I didn’t have much time with her. That she wouldn’t be in this line of work much longer, because frankly she was very old. In all I think I went to 4 X 2 hour sessions and that was all I needed. This woman totally changed my life and it bothers me I couldn’t thank her properly for it, because I was right, she wasn’t to be in this line of work for much longer. She died last April of cancer but I am convinced she is still helping people, and hopefully I will meet her when my day comes and then I can thank her properly.

It took weeks and months to let the things she said filter through my brain and to see that it was in fact the truth, and believe me those were some hard weeks and months. Imagine having to acknowledge that your whole life was a lie! That the emotional pain I was constantly suffering from was in fact self made, and in fact something I could easily control. It sure felt I had wasted my life on something worthless. But I just felt bad about that for a few minutes because if I felt bad about it then I would be nurturing the victim inside me, so I decided to be grateful for this self deception because it was a life experience and made me eventually into a better person that had gained a better understanding of myself.

It sounds like all the changes came overnight but believe me they took many months and years, gradually understanding myself, understanding what the "victim mode" did to me, and slowly changing my way of thinking and perceptions of things. To take control over myself and my emotions took also a long time to practice, and it is a thing I have to think about everyday to get through the days without falling into the "victim mode" again. The keyword is never ever never feel sorry for yourself!! If I allow myself to feel sorry for myself in any situation then I automatically feel bad and depressed after a short time. Self pity always creates negativity, that’s a simple fact, and your mind will be filled up with depressing, sad, negative thoughts if you allow yourself to indulge in self pity.

It is a fact that I haven’t felt bad or depressed for a long time (I think for years) simply because I don’t allow myself to feel sorry for myself. There are so many situations that can make you feel sorry for yourself. F. ex. I found out why I felt sad after arguments or confrontations. The reason was that I thought the persons I argued with had said or done bad things to me so I felt sorry for myself. As soon as I was aware of it, I stopped letting myself feel sorry for myself in that situation and now I don’t feel sad after arguments.

I think this list says it all. It gives you a clear idea what is the essence in the difference of a winner and victim. I made the huge mistake in my life to become a victim. I thought that because I had a bad past it was necessary to feel sorry for myself, and because of my bad past other people should feel sorry for me 24/7. I really thought that if people just had enough pity for me my emotional pain would go away. If only I could get a person in my life that would listen to my story about my bad past and just feel sorry enough for me, then everything would get better. When things just got worse I blamed the people in my life for not fulfilling their task of feeling sorry for me, and I remember how disappointed I was that people simply wouldn’t feel sorry enough for me. I really hoped and craved for this idealized person that would feel enough sorry for me and solve all my problems. I couldn’t have been more wrong. The fact is that no one is capable of feeling enough sorry for a person, simply because there is no person in the world that can make things better when you are not doing anything about it yourself.

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