les of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and unders

It is the opinion of experts, both marriage counsellors and psychologists, that marital problems like disputes, arguments and unfortunately divorce, often have as their basis the financial of the family. The income of the family, as well as the priorities of expenditure, usually happens to become the reason for quarrels.

Sociologists, who have reached this phenomenon thoroughly have found that when a wife has a higher income bracket than her husband, it gives rise to ego problems as well as a lowering of self-confidence in the husband. If they both happen to be in the same income group, the opportunities of ego clashes as well as arguments are reached.

But, if there is only one earning member - the husband - the wife has to face continuous reproaches - one, for not earning, and the other for not budgeting expenditure sensibly! The non-earning wife tolerates the harassment and the unjust accusations because she has to consider the well-being of the family, the house and the children.

It is only by compromise and tolerance that she can manage to keep things on an even balance. In fact, people believe that the house in which the husband is the only earning member is found to be comparatively happy.

Of course, one does feel the pinch occasionally when there is not enough money in the family kitty, but when you know your financial limitations, it is always sensible to learn how to manage the budget accordingly!

Here, the husband and wife cooperate with each other in making sure that the finances are never overdrawn and spending is limited to the basics, or to the bare essentials.

This healthy and sensible attitude towards financing your budget is quite effective in making your family economy run smoothly. But when both the members happen to be salaried, there happens to be a little conflict of interests. The first is, of course, the proportion which each must give out of his or her salary into the common budget.

The man reason for such a conflict between a husband and wife is the free economic rules of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and underst

elf-confidence in the husband. If they both happen to be in the same income group, the opportunities of ego clashes as well as arguments are reached.

But, if there is only one earning member - the husband - the wife has to face continuous reproaches - one, for not earning, and the other for not budgeting expenditure sensibly! The non-earning wife tolerates the harassment and the unjust accusations because she has to consider the well-being of the family, the house and the children.

It is only by compromise and tolerance that she can manage to keep things on an even balance. In fact, people believe that the house in which the husband is the only earning member is found to be comparatively happy.

Of course, one does feel the pinch occasionally when there is not enough money in the family kitty, but when you know your financial limitations, it is always sensible to learn how to manage the budget accordingly!

Here, the husband and wife cooperate with each other in making sure that the finances are never overdrawn and spending is limited to the basics, or to the bare essentials.

This healthy and sensible attitude towards financing your budget is quite effective in making your family economy run smoothly. But when both the members happen to be salaried, there happens to be a little conflict of interests. The first is, of course, the proportion which each must give out of his or her salary into the common budget.

The man reason for such a conflict between a husband and wife is the free economic rules of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and unders

romise and tolerance that she can manage to keep things on an even balance. In fact, people believe that the house in which the husband is the only earning member is found to be comparatively happy.

Of course, one does feel the pinch occasionally when there is not enough money in the family kitty, but when you know your financial limitations, it is always sensible to learn how to manage the budget accordingly!

Here, the husband and wife cooperate with each other in making sure that the finances are never overdrawn and spending is limited to the basics, or to the bare essentials.

This healthy and sensible attitude towards financing your budget is quite effective in making your family economy run smoothly. But when both the members happen to be salaried, there happens to be a little conflict of interests. The first is, of course, the proportion which each must give out of his or her salary into the common budget.

The man reason for such a conflict between a husband and wife is the free economic rules of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and unders

ever overdrawn and spending is limited to the basics, or to the bare essentials.

This healthy and sensible attitude towards financing your budget is quite effective in making your family economy run smoothly. But when both the members happen to be salaried, there happens to be a little conflict of interests. The first is, of course, the proportion which each must give out of his or her salary into the common budget.

The man reason for such a conflict between a husband and wife is the free economic rules of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and unders

les of our free society! But we cannot always blame the principles and rules of economy. Ego clashes and arguments just because the other partner earns a little bit more are quite immature.

Marriage is a partnership. Each partner has the duty to contribute to the housekeeping budget.

Of course, if you decide to spend a little bit of your own hard-earned money on a gift for your spouse on his or her birthday, or for any special occasion, it is an added bonus for the healthy growth of caring and understanding in your own marriage. And if you have your vacations together, make sure that it is not the responsibility of one partner to pay all the bills!

In a partnership, where does this idea of "This is yours" and "This is mine" have its place?

There is this joke about a husband complaining, "Of course, in the marriage vows I promised, 'With all my worldly goods, I thee endow.' My wife has interpreted it in this way: what is yours, my dear husband, is mine, and what is mine remains mine!"

Nowadays, there is another conflict of interests when occasionally the daughter-in-law protests against her husband spending on the old parents. Due to this, the daughters are coming to the forefront to make sure that the parents do not lack for anything. A clear case of "A son is a son till he takes a wife, but a daughter remains a daughter throughout her life!"

PRAISEWORTHY EFFORT

But that doesn't mean that the sons-in-law are very happy with this state of affairs, either, human nature being what it is. If the daughter happens to earn and wishes to contribute to the upkeep of her parents, the problem of disputes is minimised.

But if she does not earn at all, and her husband wishes to set a good example and helps his in-laws, even at the risk of going without some material comforts, it is a very praiseworthy effort.

It is possibly because of this fear of ruining their daughters' married harmony that many parents do not accept any help from their sons-in-law. But would one rather prefer to let his pride go when the only other option left is a life full of misery and hardship?

Sometimes, when women are extremely emotional or sensitive, they use a small excuse, be it·· financial or any other, to act offended or angry for quite a few days. Tension is often created when the stubborn husband goes back to the same subject again and again.

If matters are thought out in a logical and practical manner, a bit of compromise and discussion can immediately defuse a tense situation.

So, next time